Age difference

Bride or old maid?

The point is, women in Ukraine want to have family and children real bad, and this is the main reason motivating them to seek husbands elsewhere, since in Ukraine there is officially only 87 males for 100 females. According to Ukrainian culture, a woman should be married and have children; being single is a shame or weird. Any woman who is unmarried at the age of 22-23 is considered as "old maid".

Women 22-33 want to start family as soon as possible. The pick of the society's pressure on the woman to get married is at the age of 27; after that point her family and friends start thinking she will never get married and give up on her; she herself also starts getting used to the idea she will never have a family of her own.

Our considerations: We don’t want you to have unrealistic expectations. If you are in your late 50's or 60's, you must not expect to find an 18-year old single girl. Many wonderful, attractive ladies in their late 30s or 40s will be eager to make your acquaintance. This is realistic.

In special cases if you are very good looking, or very intelligent/rich/famous, you can make it with an age difference of 25-30 years or more. But it will be an exception, not the rule. If your aim is a lifetime commitment, be sure to take age issues into consideration.

Women starting from about 25 years of age are more serious, especially if they have a child.

What specialists say about marriages with big age difference?

When meeting married couples with big age difference, we wonder, why a young beautiful lady loves a man who could be her father or even grand father and has his best years in the past? One can suspect materialistic interests in such relationship, psychologists may diagnose “Electra complex”, though the biologists state that such unions are more than rational and give future children good chances in the meaning of evolutional development.

We know a lot of examples of happily married couples with big age difference in the field of Art and Show-business. Oleg Tobakov, Andrei Konchalovskii, Sergei Shakurov (Russia)are older their wives more than 30 years. In Hollywood we can mention such couples as Michael Douglas and Katrin-Zeta-Jones, Woody Allen and his step-daughter Soon-Yi, Nicolas Cage and waitress Ellis Kim.

She’s seeking experience

What a young lady is looking for in such a marriage? One thing is obvious: she’s looking for mature personality and secure life that can be given to her by an older man. Besides, the older partner is not only sexually more experienced and ready for new challenges in this field \ but also can offer more in spiritual life! And older man can give his woman feeling of security and commitment. On his turn, he feels happy to be seen with woman that much younger than him. This fact impresses everyone around and it flatters the man. If, despite his age, he will be able to have children in such marriage, it’ll become an obvious proof of the fact that “he’s a real man” and it’ll gives him more scores in the society. Therefore the union of youth and maturity brings benefits to both sides!

Psychologists consider such unions advisable. Her physical freshness and his experience, preferably supported with financial security, give future descendants good chances for life and development. Psychologist David Brass from Texas University in Austin interviewed more than 10000 men and women belonging to different cultures on the subject of age difference in partnership, and it turned out that in all cultures men would prefer women younger themselves and women, on their turn, stated their preference to men who are older than them.

In any case, no matter what reasons push people to “unequal marriage”, love or materialism, they can be and often are happy because every partner finds in it what he\she is seeking for.