Age Gap: should it matter?
Many of our members said they were surprised at receiving letters from attractive ladies 10-25 years younger than themselves. In western countries, this age gap may seem strange; however, for a Ukrainian wife, it is not.
One of the reasons is that women in Ukraine grow wise at a younger age, and having a relationship with a foreign man of their own age is like having affair with a teenager. Difficulties in life make people thoughtful, the same way that age does.
The age difference also adds to their feeling of security. And if you want to learn more about Russian women, read this article.
Young Ukrainian women tend to be less worried about the difference in age than older women. It is not unusual for a 20 year-old Ukrainian woman to be interested in men up to 45 years of age or older.
Bride or old maid?
The point is, women in Ukraine want to have family and children very badly, and this is the main reason motivating them to seek husbands elsewhere, since in Ukraine there is officially only 87 males for 100 females. According to Ukrainian culture, a woman should be married and have children; being single is a shame or weird. Any woman who is unmarried at the age of 22-23 is considered as "old maid".
Women 22-33 want to start family as soon as possible. The peak of the society's pressure on the woman to get married is at the age of 27; after that point her family and friends start thinking she will never get married and give up on her; she herself also starts getting used to the idea she will never have a family of her own.
We don't want you to have unrealistic expectations. If you are in your late 50's or 60's, you must not expect to find an 18-year old single girl. Many wonderful, attractive ladies in their late 30s or 40s will be eager to make your acquaintance. This is realistic.
In special cases if you are very good looking, or very intelligent/rich/famous, you can make it with an age difference of 25-30 years or more. But it will be an exception, not the rule. If your aim is a lifetime commitment, be sure to take age issues into consideration.
Women starting from about 25 years of age are more serious, especially if they have a child.
The age difference isn't as much of a problem when the couple is younger. It’s wonderful how young love can seem to conquer all! But later on in life when the couple gets progressively older it becomes more of a problem because the older spouse eventually gets into health and energy issues that the younger spouse often finds too troublesome to deal with in their own stage in life.
What specialists say about marriages with big age difference?
When meeting married couples with big age difference, we wonder, why a young beautiful lady loves a man who could be her father or even grand father and has his best years in the past? One can suspect materialistic interests in such relationship, psychologists may diagnose 'Electra complex', though the biologists state that such uni0ns are more than rational and give future children good chances in the meaning of evolutional development.
We know a lot of examples of happily married couples with big age difference in the field of Art and Show-business.
Oleg Tabakov, Andrei Konchalovskii, Sergei Shakurov (Russia) are older than their wives more than 30 years. In Hollywood we can mention such couples as Michael Douglas and Katrin-Zeta-Jones, Woody Allen and his step-daughter Soon-Yi, Nicolas Cage and waitress Ellis Kim.
She's seeking experience
What a young lady is looking for in such a marriage? One thing is obvious: she's looking for mature personality and secure life that can be given to her by an older man. Besides, the older partner is not only sexually more experienced and ready for new challenges in this field but also can offer more in spiritual life! And older man can give his woman feeling of security and commitment. On his turn, he feels happy to be seen with woman that much younger than him. This fact impresses everyone around and it flatters the man. If, despite his age, he will be able to have children in such marriage, it'll become an obvious proof of the fact that 'he's a real man' and it'll gives him more scores in the society. Therefore the uni0n of youth and maturity brings benefits to both sides!
Psychologists consider such uni0ns advisable. Her physical freshness and his experience, preferably supported with financial security, give future descendants good chances for life and development. Psychologist David Brass from Texas University in Austin interviewed more than 10000 men and women belonging to different cultures on the subject of age difference in partnership, and it turned out that in all cultures men would prefer women younger themselves and women, on their turn, stated their preference to men who are older than them.
In any case, no matter what reasons push people to 'unequal marriage', love or materialism, they can be and often are happy because both partners finds in it what heshe is seeking for.
Get acquainted with a beautiful lady from 30 y.o. to have more calmness and stability in your relationship!